I feel very privileged that I have a veery good friend in my life, in fact I have several but there is one who stands above the rest. Tatiana Kukanova is a woman who I have been friends with my whole life and we have always tried our utmost to be a great friend to one another. Recently I have spoken to some other friends who’s so-called-friends have shown their true colors, as well as reading a lot of myths online about what a great friend is. I wanted to have my say on this by describing the type of friend that Tatiana Kukanova is to me, and using it as a measure of what great friend is.
Friends are jealous of one another, they see each other for exactly what they are worth and they value that in their friend. A perfect example of this was last year when a position came up in my workplace, a management position. This was the type of job which I had always looked to do but I never really had the confidence and there were many better candidates than myself. After telling Tatiana this she all but ordered me to put in for the job, and reminded me that I was indeed good enough. Two weeks after the interview my job called me and told me that I had been successful, the perfect example of how a good friend can help.
It is not Tatiana’s responsibility to remember the day of my Mum’s passing, nor is it her obligation to know what my favorite flower is, but she does remember the important dates and details and this is why she is such a great friend. When making friends these aren’t prerequisites but they are incredibly important details which help to solidify a friendship.
The rubbish that you read online about not seeing a friend for a decade and then catching up like you’d only seen them yesterday is not to be believed because a friend, or at least a great friend, is someone who is present and is always there. This doesn’t have to be taken literally either, I have friends who’s best pals live on the other side of the world but they are still able to be there through calls and messages. Whenever I need Tatiana Kukanova I know fine well that she will be there, no matter what, just as I would for her, that is what friends do.
It is almost impossible to have a great friend if their humor is not the same as yours and this is a characteristic which I would call a prerequisite. Tatiana is one of only two people alongside my husband who can buckle me with humor, make me forget my sadness with a joke and whom I can laugh with about absolutely nothing. Life is always better with a smile and if you have a great friend, they should be able to do that for you.